The Hidden Devil that maketh a man

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How often do you find a guy spilling out the beans about his species: Man – one of the God’s most complicated creations obviously after the “Ever Complicated” Woman after all, they have an extra “wo” (No hard feelings).

Sometime back one of my close friends asked me about bad habits in guys and trust me I did not think twice before answering her whatever came to my mind. The reason well obviously, there are some really nasty bad habits that men do have. Cmon, who are we kidding all of us are flawed creations of Mr. Perfect – God the almighty as we call him. I feel it is better to admit than to allow the devil inside us to drive our partners away. I am sure I will end up getting a lot of criticism for writing this but then I feel it is important for those angelic version of girls who think guys are perfect and get committed without thinking too much :)

Traditionally, men were created to be the bread winners of the family and women were supposed to be child bearers. Times changed, and over the years as society progressed to a more neutral gender roles where both husband and wife were working together to make ends meet. Some men have evolved over the years but some have not and that is why relationship end up with volcanic eruptions.

Let us ponder over some of their typical characteristics and my sincere apologies for missing out on some. Oh and by the way, it may fit typical Indian guys only :) 

Casanova : Men have always loved having girls around them. Making fake promises to woo a girl is one of the most common things men do. They will work extremely hard to get a girl but the moment they get one, they treat them as their own property. They will use all sorts of absurd, peculiar statements to woo her – “I will do a anything for you” is one of the pet statements that guys use. Some guys do come up with creative statements like “I know you have been treated like a Princess in your family, I will make sure I treat you like a Queen… You will be the ruler of my kingdom, our kingdom. Believe it or not, girls do fall for lines like this, not all but many. The most commonly used statement is obviously those Three Golden Words “I love you”, guys use it like they are saying “How are you”. It is definitely become trite now.

Guys have a common funda “The more the merrier” after all Man is a wanting animal. Even if he has an apple he will always be interested in having one more even if he is not hungry. It is similar to having a counter in them to be proud of number of girls they pataofied (wooed). “Being a one woman man” is a rarity in today’s world that is ruled by fashion, looks, other physical traits. You fall in love for beauty once and I am sure you wouldn't wait to fall in love again. Beauty is an abstract concept for many and a very subjective term as well but then having it as a factor for falling in love can be dangerous. Most guys hit on other girls despite being seriously committed to a girl while on the other hand the girl may become a “pati parmeshwar stree” (one man woman).

Mr Possessive: Who doesn't like being possessive (except no string attached ones). There are guys who start acting like a shadow to their partner the very moment they get committed. I am sure everyone agrees that space is required for any relationship to prosper but many men fail to understand this. The moment they get committed, they will ensure their partner is broken off social contacts but they will continue to be the way they were before commitment. Lately, I have noticed many guys asking their gf’s to close their FB accounts while they continue their social media interaction. I sometimes wonder why this hypocrisy? The reason they give is “Baby I trust you but I do not trust the world” and the Babies (Girls) end up believing them blindly. After all love is really blind. 

Some men go up to the extent of asking for passwords and constantly checking their accounts. Is this what you call trust? It was always said that Trust is one of the most important elements of a relationship but I suppose with Globalization working its way up, it isn't trust anymore that works in a relationship but insecurity of losing each other.

Mr Physical: Men feel the moment they get committed the most important thing is to have sex. Many have taken it to be like a covenant for love. I wonder how girls fall for lines like “Prove that you love me by giving me a BJ or having sex” “Don’t you love me” “Show me your love”. Has Love lost the meaning or have the secretion of oxytocin increased over the years. I do understand this being common in a No strings Attached Relationships (NSAR) but then even normal relationships having the physical factor is very strange. Men feel the most important thing in today’s world is to fornicate with women. As a matter of fact, some men even maintain a score for “No. of girls Kissed”, “No. of girls Banged” It is like a status symbol. The hypocrite society definitely calls men  who are Mr. Physical as Casanova while girls end up being called Sluts. Aint it abnormal?

Alcohol: It is considered the best stress buster for the new generation. It is like a panacea be it a breakup, failure in exams, business, social issues…I am sure many believe that Kashmir Issue would be better solved at a beer table rather than at a Round table Conference. The most common dialogue you will find is “It makes me feel light, “feel aa jaati hai”, etc. Some have it to show off their style statement. It is like moment you enter a bar you have to update on FB that you have entered the bar. It has become more like a status symbol that I drink Jhonnie Walker or Chivas, etc.

Now you can find people catch up with each other at beer bars rather than a book shop. I agree times are changing but is it really for the benefit of mankind?

Sutta the great: Sutta is no longer a word for smoke it is become more like a companion. Most guys feel their hand are incomplete if they don’t have something in between their fingers (other than their partners fingers). People are not scared to empty their pockets at Khokha/Smoking counters for packets of cigarettes.  Despite media campaigns, Statutory warnings no one gives a crap about the ill effects. Many feel it is another stress buster and will ease them off their problems. In fact, a lot of board room decisions maybe taken at smoking sessions. Coffee breaks are now being replaced by smoke breaks. The next best thing might just become "Smoke Joints".

Dominism: This is one thing which is in the blood of most men. Almost all want to show their superiority. I am sure this world has more male chauvinists than ever before. They feel it is their moral right to be dominating over women but I fail to understand why always women.  I wonder if men really want to show their superiority why cant they show in front of their boss or another guy. Sometimes even the girls label that I want a guy who takes decision. I feel times have changed and so should the girls, they should start being independent rather than looking forward to their husbands for every decision. In a lot of marriages you can find women being suppressed, submissive but the blame cannot be given to the men. They should be able to rise and shine and show the men that they are capable rather than being mere robots and working on a man’s orders.

Most important thing that guys need to realize is that dominism does not show your superiority but your cowardliness and FYI, physical strength does not show superiority. You cannot win anything by being a ruler of a family as you are really digging up your own grave. What happens when you are not there? You want the family to suffer in your absence?

It is time men realize that the world has to move toward gender neutral family rather than male dominating ones.

Impatient: Yes you read it right, believe it or not. Most men don’t listen to anyone, I wonder if they even listen to themselves. It is similar to the statement from Salman Khan’s movie Wanted “Ek baar jo maine commitment de diya toh main apne aap ki bhi nai sunta” (If I have given my word for something I do not listen to even myself). There are very few men of real honor like Mahatma Gandhi who had patience and believe it or not success is very much dependent on patience. Yet, it is a rarity in guys of this generation. They are ready to fight for no reason, you hit a car by mistake and you will end up having a brawl in the middle of the road. Blame it on the weather or blame it on the lifestyle all you end up is men fighting among themselves for no reason. People cannot stop and listen to what the other person has to say. They don’t even have time to hear a sorry from the other person.

The same goes in relationships, men don’t listen and that is one of the reasons why relationships break. A girl wants tomato and the guy brings potato reason is because he assumed that she wanted this. Why can’t we spend time to listen to what the other person wants to say?

Dirty Habits: You can find variety of men with some nasty habits that include public display of dirtiness (PDD). Some of the common ones you will find are nose pickers (ones who look for a moment and then pick Gold from their Goldmine noses and then wipe it somewhere). There are some who are King of Farting, they showcase their holiness by Farting it out loud with pride. I wonder what people get by Public Farting. In fact you should look at their faces after they are through with the act. They showcase as if they have done a noble deed.

How can you forget Public Scratchers – Men who wait for a moment to scratch at bizarre places on their body and the worst part is when they are aware that people are watching.

Men have a lot to work upon if they are to woo the women of tomorrow :)

I am sure I being a guy would end up with a lot of hate mail for this :)

Wake up India before it is too late

Monday morning’s (17th December, 2012) newspaper brought jaw dropping, mouth covering, “Oh My God” reactions on the face of many. Delhi has always been highlighted as the capital of the country but with the recent turn of events it is slowly moving to the race of rape capital. I would still disagree on this as I do not have the statistics on the number of cases (including reported and unreported). There are other cities where a girl is raped every 10 minutes but considering the lack of media activism in such cities, it is not given the hype which it duly deserves.

SMS, Facebook posts were abuzz describing what exactly the poor girl (though she is truly a fighter with a will to live in this inhumane world) went through when she was returning from Munirka to Dwarka – a route which I often used as a student when I was in college (and also the route where one a popular bus Route no. 764 plies but sadly it is often full or having a low frequency). No one could have ever imagined that a trip back home along with a male friend (many call it her boyfriend due to our typical Indian stereotyped nature of labeling a girl and a guy as boyfriend/girlfriend) could be a pathway through hell (I am sure even hell cant be that worse). This is not the right platform to describe what the girl actually went through as it would only bring tears to the eyes of a reader.

Where are we wrong? Are we inhuman? Have we lost the meaning of humanity? How can someone be so cruel? These are just some of the questions which an average reader typically asks but why is this happening? People say that men are inhuman well I can say it is partly true. There are some men who have immense respect for women but then there are some who hate them to hell. Women in India have always been treated as unwanted, one who can be ruled upon. It starts right from birth of a female child, where the mother in law (typical sasu maa) looks down upon the daughter in law (typical bahu) if a girl child is born as if it is her fault. They are unaware of the fact that biologically it is the men who are responsible (obviously it is the destiny but still if you really want to blame someone you should blame the men). Nevertheless, the female child never cared by the grandmother grows up into a teenager and taught basic skills likes cooking tea, food (including dal, roti, rice). She is often taught the fact that you should respect men. Although the male child is never taught this in most household rather they are often treated as a king. They are never taught any cooking related stuff. She is often told that she will be married to a prince who will come on a horse and stuff like that.

Indians often use a term “Pati Parmeshwar” (translated to Husband God) there is no such term as “Patni Parmeshwari” (translated to Wife Goddess). I would like to ask why? Why this gender bias has always haunted our typical Indian household. Where were we wrong? Were the Vedas wrong? Were the Pandit’s who translated the inscriptions sexist? Whatever the case maybe it is the female who suffer in today’s world. They have no one to save them except a few men who fight for others right with all might.

I am sure you all remember how Delhi came together to support the Anna movement at RamLila for a common cause of corruption. Where are the supporters when it comes to right for women? I am sure many “To-Be” or “Ex” rapists must be present at the Anna movement as well. Mr. Arvind Kejriwall took about 4 days to call for a meeting by sending out this message

“Repeated rapes. No punishments. Why? Reach Jantar Mantar 2 pm Friday, 21 Dec. Some rape victim families would also join – Arvind Kejriwal. Fwd2all”.

Is this not called politicizing the issue? Why doesn’t he hold the government to ransom for passing a bill for speedy justice and capital punishment to rape victims?

Seems like the “Aam Aadmi Party” is not so aam or they just want to have some aam (mangoes). Many AAP supporters will say “Cmon at least the AAP is going to bring a change and once they come to power they will completely change the system” I would just like to say one thing “I hope so or else we would just add the AAP to the list of all other parties who blabber a lot and do nothing. Maybe I have deviated myself from the core issue and let us go back and introspect a bit more.

The women community have taken up lot of forms like Women’s commissions, Female cell, etc but none of this really works as this these institutions are more on paper than to bring about a change. Also, one should ask another important question, how many people would have really helped the girl if they saw her languishing in that state? I am sure people would have turned a blind eye with a reason that police will keep calling us and irritating us and even before that suspecting us. The police should change they ways of working and ensure hassle free experience for the ones who help. People are often reluctant to help just because they will be tortured for helping a girl in the form of court hearing, etc.

I would agree to a post on my cousin Ankit Rajvanshi’s wall

We talk of educating the females to reduce female illiteracy but what happens with them , they are physically harrassed .
We talk of encouraging female employment so that females also come shoulder to shoulder in comparison to men but what happens , they are molested fearlessly on roads , in buses and streets .
We talk of female empowerment and representation on national and state level but what hapoens , they even do not get justice in time .

In reference to Delhi case ,Some so called ORTHODOX will say "she must not have gone out so late and girls must wear traditional clothes" . Is it a guarantee that rapists only molest girls wearing jeans and top . In my sense , salwar kameez doesn't work as iron clothes afterall its also made of cotton and woolen . Fault is not in dressing and late outgoing but in the mentality of people . 
Need is to inculcate into people values and civilised manners .
Need is to reinforce police system . 
Need is to spread vigilance among people .
Need is to bring strict and fear awakening legislation .
Need is to teach all to RESPECT WOMEN .
Need is to act more and speak less .
Need is to wakeup and bring socio-political change 

In my opinion there are two primary reasons for this to happen.

The first one is where your friend, acquaintance, obsessive lover turns into a rapist. It can be to take revenge, can be lust, or a lot many reasons that the psychologists can comment upon. The other reason is where a villager or a person from rural background moves to a typical urban setup and finds women in a very different frame. We have two separate and disconnected India – one rural, with age old traditions still prevailing and the other transforming India – one that is moving towards westernization, one that is progressing towards more of an American culture.

An average rural Indian is not able to digest women entering into the battle field that have always been dominated by men. They have always seen women as unwanted and submissive. When they see women working, liberal, they feel vulnerable and see them as a threat to their dominance. This is where they try to show their physical superiority over them. It is time that men grow up and understand that being physically strong does not justify that you are superior and the other person is inferior. They are unable to bear women working, taking the centerstage. Many men feel insecure about this change. I strongly feel there should be an era of either neutralism or female chauvinism. This is the only way the society can change and move towards a better environment. We have so much to do in a developing country, if we keep battling with these internal threats we would lose the opportunity to grow into a superpower one day. The issue needs to be addressed quickly and from all angles not just by blaming different institutions.

India gate protests, female parliamentarians, other sections of the society have come up with a common voice “Capital Punishment for rapists” this maybe good and worth it but then one should drill down to the root cause of the problem and not just look at a cure. Prevention as they all say is always better than the cure, though sadly capital punishment is not a cure. There are other voices demanding castration and other punishments like using a hunter and stuff but trust me the Human Rights foundation will never allow this to happen ever and we being a democratic country have to listen to all the sides before coming up with a conclusion. It should be a collaborative effort from all the players/parties involved.

Firstly, the NGO’s, Corporate CSR arms, Government functions should work together to improve the status of education in all the schools because this is where the problem starts or where hatred is injected in the minds of individuals. There should be a mandatory subject on “Moral Values” irrespective of the mode of communication – English, Hindi or any other regional language. Students should be allowed to communicate with each other across different age group to help them understand and accept the opposite sex. We cannot live by being disconnected, we need to be collaborative and work towards a common goal – an individual’s career growth leading to overall country’s growth.

Secondly, there is an urgent need for reforms both from the law and order as well as the judiciary. The police should have sense of accountability and sense of protectionist attitude towards citizens. The judiciary should work towards improving the conviction rate, speeding up the trial and working towards stricter punishment for such cases. The parliament on the other hand should table and pass a bill that would enable stricter punishment for such individuals and immediately ban sitting MP’s/MLA’s if they have any such case (including sexual assault, molestation) against them. It is time we wake up to the bitter reality that this case has brought forward. We are unaware about so many crimes that are committed across India, this being a case from Delhi has been highlighted.

It is time that we Indians introspect instead of blaming the government, police as support for women cannot be in the form of a Facebook share, a like or forwarding message but more in the form of change of opinion about them accept that they have the power to rule as well. Another problem that I feel is still prevailing in our society is that this issue is often termed as a female issue and men try to shrug it off their shoulders that since it your problem you deal with it but one should understand that is the men who are involved in such a heinous crime.

It is high time that women and young girls start investing more time in learning self defense rather than spending time chit chatting with loved ones and men should get their act right. Government and law makers on the other hand should look at making devices like Tazer Guns legal.

My heart goes out to that girl who is fighting a battle, I hope she comes out victorious and shows men that women are truly made of steel.

I would like to leave a note by saying “India and fellow Indians, it is time to open your eyes and wake up and introspect”, “and women fight with all your might to get things right”.

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Cacophonic Diwali

First of all I would like to wish each and everyone of you a very happy Deepawali. Diwali has always been regarded as the festival of lights but places like Sivakasi have labeled it as Festival of Sounds. Interestingly, Diwali (or Deepavali) marks the victory of Good over Evil and is believed to be celebrated to mark the return of Hindu Lord Rama after 14 years of exile  (some also celebrate it for killing of Narakasura), back then people celebrated with Diyas and FYI, they never had any crackers. A festival that was supposed to be innocuous in nature and supportive of spirit of love, brotherhood, peace and harmony has started turning out to be a bane for the environment.

There is a considerable amount of media attention given to this issue every year that starts right in the month of September in the form of media reports explaining the harmful effects of crackers, posters by government agencies asking public to celebrate a “No Cracker” or “Eco-Friendly” Diwali but come Diwali and people are hysterically celebrating Diwali. It is good to celebrate the festival in free spirit but with the recent climatic changes it is important to switch to a Green Mode in public interest. Are we so selfish that we are least bothered about what the future generation are going to suffer?

I may be called a hypocrite for asking people not to use crackers because in my childhood I did use crackers during Diwali. It was like a big gala with kids forcing their dad’s to buy the latest crackers (also called pataka – not to be confused with “pataka girls” – hot girls). Kids deliberately asked the shopkeepers for crackers that produce deafening sounds and bright colors in the sky. It was another competition when it came to rockets, to add to this there was innovation from some kids (wish they used innovation to design a chip or an ipod :D) who used different styles and angles to fire a rocket aimed at someone’s balcony. It was often taken in free spirit just like holi (as they say “Bura na Mano Holi Hai” – “Don’t be offended it is Holi after all”). It was a story of the 90’s or probably 2000’s. Fast forward to year 2012 and you have “Nazi Bomb”, “Atom Bomb”, “Super Bomb” and what not all that promise you one thing “Big and Loud”.  Some kids have gone to the extent of using crackers on animals as well. I am sure you don’t want to imagine what would happen.

I am not here to deprive the young children of the fun in bursting crackers that we as kids enjoyed but things are going out of control now. It is important to note that kids cannot do anything without the help of their parents who are a part of the bursting crackers game after all you need money to buy crackers. Despite Supreme court guidelines of no crackers post 10pm, there were considerable amount of crackers being burst right until 1am. Is this what we call control or self concious? Are parents (mostly working in MNC’s) not intelligent enough to impart education of a greener world to their kids? Are they not hypocrites where on one hand they celebrate Earth Hour by switching off lights and on another hand burst crackers”

As a matter of fact crackers are not cheap, they are expensive but then even adults are unable to resist the temptation after all they are also kids at heart. It is time that elders understand that Diwali is not about competition or having a cracker that keeps producing sound for an hour, it is about celebrating a festival with your family, your loved ones, peace, harmony, love, etc. If you have extra money why don’t you keep some bundles of Rs 500 notes, allow it to catch fire and upload it on youtube (I do not endorse this but have to use this statement). They might as well get a billion views with the title “Currency on Fire”. Trust me, you are doing the same thing indirectly.

Many argue that it creates employment specially in places like Sivakasi that are dependent on the cracker industry. I like to laugh at that statement, if you are so worried about employment why don’t you support employment generating policies of the government like FDI (I wont get started on that one now). Sivakasi should be labeled as a city meant to destroy Mother Earth. It may turn out to be true one day if Government does not have stricter laws. The markets were flooded with Chinese crackers with high metal content and the adults were not even bothered about where it was coming from.

It is time that the Government and the Apex court takes serious note of the issues in such festivals that are only going to cause problems in future. There should be stricter laws for offenders. There should also be a regulatory authority that is able to act as a watchdog for the different type of crackers flooding the market. When you can have a Food Corporation of India why cant you have a Explosives Regulatory Authority.  We are not ingenuous that we do not understand the ill effects of crackers, we are just hypocrites who on one hand support Go Green Campaign and on one hand buy the costliest crackers.

Hope one day we do not hear a single cracker on Diwali, I wish to see a vibrant and colorful Diwali and not a cacophonic Diwali in times to come.

PS: There have been considerable media reports that the pollution reports have gone down but I still feel we are far away from a eco friendly Diwali.

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Politics – not so bad after all

My last blog post was related to Team Anna and the fan following. The current blog title may seem too irritating for most people particularly the youth (yes indeed the youth). Interestingly the most popular social networking website “The Facebook” also has a row for “Political Views” in the about section but you will mostly find it either blank or “I DON’T CARE”. Last week’s news was dedicated to Barack Obama’s spectacular win in the US Presidential Election (although I should have written about it, might as well do in the near future). I felt great to see American youth at least discussing about it, making youtube videos – in favour, against or mocking the presidential candidate at least this shows that you do care. Look at the almost adult -teenagers (16-19) or even the new working professionals (age group 21-24) in India, they carry a “I don’t give a SHIT about politics attitude”. I wont say that they are too naïve to understand such things c’mon they are the future business leaders, political leaders, social leaders or for that matter Future Anna’s.

The Indian youth are busy spending hours on Facebook (oh I should call it FB as they do – after all there is a short for everything), spending hours chatting with their loved ones, discussing useless and baseless things, girls gossiping about latest affairs surrounding people around them. I am not an anti – gossip guy but at least you should find time to think about changes happening in the environment around you particularly the political system, the economic system of our beloved country India. Let BCCI or PCB host a India vs Pakistan and you will find almost all the Indians glued to the television supporting their favorite nations. It is saddening to know that they have gone to the extent of calling each other enemies (particularly kids). Is this what we are heading to? Cricket matches are conducted in the spirit of the game and not to incite war among two nations. Imagine these kids grow up and become Foreign ministers what do you expect when there is a meeting to discuss issues. Will they throw rocks or use MC, BC? I hope none of the reader thinks that time will teach them everything because it is these childhood instances that matter the most when it comes to taking tough decisions. Time does teach you a lot but it cannot be with you all the time.

The American teens do have a basic idea about what is happening, Indian teens are not even bothered about politics. People might say it is because of the format of the elections. Americans have a televised public debate between the Presidential candidates as well as the Running mates. In India all you have are a bunch of television ads, campaigns, rallies, etc but none of this touches the eyes and ears of naïve Indians. We call ourselves the largest democracy and proud of the largest youth population but will it make any difference if the youth are ignorant. I use the sentence “Ignorance is a Sin” and my friend does scold me for being too harsh but then don’t you think it is important to be aware about your own country specially when it is going to affect you.

Every step the government takes (I feel like calling it Federal government), does affect you, your neighbor, your loved ones. The terms like economy, fiscal deficit, foreign policy might look foreign to some but can create havoc if they are not addressed.

Let us look at some of the lame reasons that most young crowd gives. The most common and funny one is “How does it even matter if I comment or discuss”. Well if it doesn’t matter then why does price hike matters to you, why does VAT matter to you, why does the Beer Bottle going costlier matter to you, why does Airtickets getting costlier matter to you. If you cant talk about it, I don’t think you have a right to even complain. The next reason is that “I will don’t find intellectual people to talk about it and if I do people cut me out” – well that’s the problem with most Indians. They feel the right age to talk about politics is either in the office (when no other topic about a hot chick in office is left) or when you turn 40. If that was true then why are we even paying income tax before the age of 40. If you cant find like minded people try to discuss it with parents, seniors, I am sure there are many who love to talk about politics. Well the youth can find ample reasons to run away from the real issues but trust me it will one day start affecting you. There are some who go on to the extent of saying politics is evil. If it were so, why have intellectual men and women chosen it as a career. People like Arvind Kejriwall (I like to add an extra “L to make it sound WALL), Subramaniam Swamy, just to name a few. They could have continued their journey of making a formidable career infact Mr. Swamy was a Professor at Harvard what compelled him to come to India (please don’t say money in politics). It is sad to see very few Indians think of Politics as a career option due to the muscle power and bulk cash involved in getting a ticket.

I am happy that the Anna movement and Team IAC (although I don’t blindly support them) has been able to shake and wake some Indians from their sleep but still many are sleeping. I can only expect that in the near future, the Indian junta can come out of their shell, think and discuss about issues that surround our country. Independence day and Republic day are not the only days to show your patriotism.

Politics is really not that bad after all.

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The Anna Effect...

If this article was written a few years back many would have thought it is about “Anna Kournikova” – the sizzling Russian beauty cum tennis star but this is indeed about Anna Hazare and his team members commonly referred to as Team Anna.

Majority of the news in the recent past was revolving around Team Anna and Baba Ramdev particularly in the backdrop of their anti corruption movement. It was great to see “the young India” coming ahead and supporting the moment. At the same time it brought to light a very important question – “Why was the support so less compared to last year”. There have been numerous theories to justify the claim particularly by the government, media and noted political activists.

In this article, I bring forward my opinion about the whole “Team Anna Movement”. It will be interesting to note that until last year I was supporting Team Anna including Anna Hazare, Arvind Kerjriwal, Kiran Bedi, Manish Sishodia particularly their views. Lately, I have started taking keen interest in the world around me and how it is dynamically changing every day.

The young crowd, however, are mixed in their opinion. I am glad to see that many young Indians are supporting the movement, but have we asked them why are they supporting the movement. It is interesting to note that most of them support for the “Cool Factor” associated with this movement. They feel they are a part of the “2^nd Independence Struggle”. They do not have an opinion of their own rather they feel “Anna Hazare”, “Arvind Kejriwal” and others are the future of New India as I call it and that they we will follow them blindly. This brings about an interesting question “Are we Blind”? I am not here to criticize what they say as at one point of time last year, I was supporting the movement to such an extent that I skipped office and participated in the movement.

It is difficult to be on the other side of the table where you are alone and the entire world has a different opinion. Some of my friends have even gone to the extent of saying “Are you supporting Congress (read Indian National Congress)”. First of all, I would like to justify, I am not supporting INC or BJP for that matter but yes I do not follow anyone blindly. I appreciate Team Anna for bringing a matter of deep concern for majority of Indians in public domain but I question their timing.

Today when I look at the chronology, why did Anna’s movement start right after the world cup despite the fact that the 2G report by the CAG was out in January. Did it take 4 months to create a POA or read the report or were they busy in supporting India in the world cup? I know most of you are so obsessed with Team Anna that you would just say that “It seems you are happy with corruption”. Can’t the “young Indians” introspect a bit and then support the movement?

Team Anna has changed a lot since last year. They were previously fighting for a single cause the Jan LokPal bill. They came out with their own songs about the Jan LokPal (it indeed had a catchy tune “Lokpal lokpal pass karo janlok pal”). They had mass support through the entire movement and according to them the media was singing to their tune (although it is wrong, media does not support anyone).

This year things have changed, along with the Jan Lokpal bill they have a new demand : SIT against 15 ministers that includes Hon’ble President of this young vibrant country (ironically he is old). Btw have you ever thought about the fact that majority of Indians are young but Indian leaders are quite old. (Although with the recent cabinet reshuffle the average age of the cabinet has come down but it is still in the 50's). According to various sources, there cannot be any proceedings against the President of this country while he holds the office. According to the constitution (although I have not read the constitution and plan to read it by the time I turn 40), he is immune from any criminal proceedings while he is in office. I do understand the fact that Team Anna are unhappy with the way things are going in our country but you cannot hold the government at ransom. I leave it on the readers to introspect before blindly supporting anyone.

I am not against Team Anna or Arvind Kejriwal's political party (as they call it) but they still have a long road to travel if they are to reach the Parliament. I will definitely support the party provided they answer other important issues i.e. their views on FDI, Unemployment, Population, Literacy, Maoism, Bilateral issues, etc. A political party cannot be formed on the sole objective of Jan Lokpal or Right to Education, etc.

Update: I am glad Anna Hazare has distanced himself from Arvind Kejriwal’s political ambition.

Update 2: Anna Hazare has decided not to vote for Aam Aadmi Party. 

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Those Rs 985

Well not much of a big amount but when you are using that same amount on a taxi fare it may seem a bit too much. Specially when you are just 21 and are pretty much used to Public Buses and to add to the icing of the cake, you are in Delhi with almost no luggage!!!!

Yes, I did spend that same amount which could easily be used to buy a Levis jeans, or maybe some t shirts or just about a nice gift for someone. Well 985 that’s me… lol. No seriously speaking at the first place its not my fault.

It all started with my trip back to Delhi from Chennai, after spending holidays with my parents. I had a wonderful time over there except that it was a bit too hot (saying this despite being a Delhi-ite). Well I had to book a flight to return here since its 2005 kms and even a Rajdhani takes nothing less than about 36 hours. Well had a wonderful flight although did not meet anyone new(which I mostly do in a journey). Well right after I landed got to know that the outside temperature is 9 degrees celcius.. This brought a smile on my face..to many it would give a shiver but I was happy that I was finally back…far away from that hot place..

Well moving back to where I was, although I do spend a lot but only when I find it worth it. I may spend a 180 on a coffee but at least that makes me smile. The whole idea started with a small conversation with dad regarding my travel back to Delhi. When asked about how I plan to go to the flat(which is in Greater Noida), I took 10 minutes to just think about it. I finally answered by saying I ll take a bus. I don’t know if it was a joke or something (as a matter of fact…bus and jokes…God). Anyways.. he asked me so are you seriously. Tell me how will you go, explain me the journey I said I ll go to Dhaula Kuan then take a bus to noida and then to greater noida and then another bus and then walk from there. My dad said “Son, don’t you think you have used too many then’s in the statement and its very incorrect. Well what could I even do, there was nothing I could say. He said now its final you will take a cab from the airport and I have arranged it.

Well here I am, writing it down at least it does have a value… Rs 985 on a cab for just about 70 kms…not at all justified. But it was enough to make me realize how comfortable I am and how uncomfortable people of india are living below poverty line. It did give me a true idea about how valuable money is… maybe this is a lesson to learn about the value of money. It took just about an hour to finish off those Rs 985 which for some takes about a month to earn(even today in India). For the very first time I noticed each and every beggar on the street…right from the ones who sell toys at red lights to the beggars…and those who live on the roads. I noticed each one of them and every time I saw them I learned how life is and the game of destiny.

Well people learn a lot in life through experiences and I am one of them too. It took my close to Rs 1000 to realize the value of money, the beggars on the street and the game of destiny. How just you birth can change your fortune and your living.

In the end… I would say it was a comfortable expensive pleasant jouney… had it been a Merc or a Lamborghini I would have been happy to pay. But those two 500 rupee notes were just not meant for anything else. I was just realizing how this journey for a normal human being would have taken nothing more than Rs 50 (at most).

At last I would just thank God for making me realize the value of money.

And last but not the least my parents for this…..

Survival of the Fittest!!!!

Yes that’s the true motto for any person who travels by bus. Hard to digest living in the capital of this awesome country still this is the fact. Our population is just awesome with commonwealth approaching and all the roads getting ready for a makeover the general public is at the losing end. Its true that people say to get anything you need to struggle but let me ask something..Is this struggle.

 

Okay lets get to the point. Let me start by  explaining to you my general bus travel. Well first of all early morning getting ready for college is a tough task for any engineer(to be). Well engineers by virtue of definition are supposed to be awake all night. Reason … well most of them just listening to music, others discussing crap with friends… some hooked on to their cellphones talking to their loved ones(ahem ahem lemme clear it…by loved ones I don’t mean family it means girlfriends or to – be girlfriends) and some planning future life….very few of them are there who might be seen struggling over writing some geeky code…. Don’t ask me what do I do[J].

 

So you get up early in the morning take an shower and you get on to the bus stop just to see that a public bus is waiting for you. Well it’s a convention that you wait for the “DTC” but let me clear it our…DTC may be at your service like Delhi Police but that’s only for the papers in reality story is very different. Well to me DTC are like Dinosaurs … extinct…. Well you wait for the DTC but they just wont come.. Basically it’s the private “BLUELINE” buses that are at your service no matter what. You just don’t need to wait they are always there for you. BUT…yes there is a very big BUT you don’t need to be happy about it let the story continue..

 

So there is this blueline bus waiting for you to come in, the bus conductor comes in to you asks you “Sir chalo kaha jana hai” no matter what you say the conductor will be “chailiye sir bus mein aaiye”. Well waiting for a DTC specially when you want to reach early is no alternative so you step into a DTC and guess what the blueline bus still wont move until it finds each and every possible traveller.

 

Story goes on the bus moves the worst thing is that it will stop for every person on the way even if it is on the middle of the road. You wave at them and they will stop just to catch as they call it a “savari”. The main struggle starts in buses when there is a long route. You are standing and the crowd keeps coming there is no limit in India about the number of persons in a bus(Mrs Sheila Dixit please note for your reference) the conductor is like “Bhaiya thoda aage jaiye” and there is another person in the front who ll say “Bhaiya thoda peeche jaiye”. You will be like “Bloody hell where is the space….but you just cant do anything you will probably be standing but people keep coming.

 

It continues lets jump straight into bus routes no. 34/764/724/33/717/… just to name a few you will get to do all kind of “Swami Ramdev Asanas” it is like a treat for you. The bus will be so damn crowded that you wont need to do anything you might also have to stand on one feet. Still the conductor will be like “bhaiya thodi jagah hai aage jao” I wonder how do they find space.. The most important thing the conductors do is ticket collection…Even if the bus is fully crowded they will still come to collect your ticket by squeezing in…at times you might not be able to see suddenly a hand will come from nowhere and it ll be “Bhaiya ticket”…frankly speaking they become spiderman in buses….well in bluelines there is no respect for women seriously speaking. I guess its because of the crowd even if a woman is standing people just don’t care to get up. This is one thing that is different in Delhi Metro at least people there have the courtesy. Well I seriously think women should never think of travelling in these kind of buses. Well lets continue you will be standing on one feet and there is no mercy.. You will have special crowd all stinking and standing right next to you. Dont ever worry about perspiration you wont just have your perspiration but also from the people next to you. At time you might see droplets falling off from another person on your hand...(Sorry for getting a bit gross)...

Well getting off the bus is another struggle. You need to be over flexible to get out. You follow a  step process

1. Find the target location to get down

2. Plan where to get down 

3. Squeeze as much as possible and keep asking from the people in front "bhaiya kaha utroge"

Well Mrs. Sheila Dixit you have done everything for Delhi but your DTC are just too few for Delhi vasis...I know there is only one dialog .. "We are working in this matter"...Well i can just say i hope things get better even if your party wins/loses the elections as what matters is public. 

Well i guess i ll write another article on Traffic at delhi as its another area you might want to know. 

Well i know it might have been too long 

 

 PS: Never use a deo while travelling it might just turn into a R-Deo (Reverse Deo)